I know love and infatuation can be tricky to tell apart. Lots of people get confused with those two. And some even get it mixed up with obsession. I'm here today to tell you the complete difference between both. Let me tell you a story of a boy and a girl. Once upon a time boy meets girl and girl meets boy. They spend lots of time together and boy starts to develop feelings for girl. Even though she has given him no sign that she feels the same way, every night he still feels like they could work and he plays over and over in his head how this could possibly go. Every night he racks his mind with details of every conversation he's had with her. He can barely eat, talk, sleep... without thinking of her. He wants to talk to her 24/7 and he says he would do anything for her, give up anything for her. He sees her as the one for him... all with no signs from her that she feels the same way. This generation gets a lot of their non-verbal signals through social media and texting. A tale-tell sign that she's just not that into you... she doesn't feel the need to text you back. It's stupid to justify this like this but in this time period... it makes perfect sense. She also doesn't feel the need to bring up your obvious feelings for her unless she wants to string you along or actually pursue something. Maybe she's waiting for you to approach but at this point maybe you've made your point. Back to the story... boy sees girl as the most perfect, there's nothing wrong with her, type of girl. And I am sorry to break it to you, but no one is perfect. Every person has their flaws but none are so perfect you need put them on a pedestal. Like the quote at the top of this page, Infatuation is seeing them as the most perfect human being. Love is seeing that they aren't perfect and accepting them always. Unconditionally. Infatuation is temporary, Love is forever. When asking yourself if you love this person, ask yourself these questions and answer 100% honestly. 1. Can I see a real obtainable future with this person? 2. Is a future with this person possible? 3. What is holding me back from telling them I might feel this way? 4. Is there something holding us back? 5. Do I love them or the idea of something with them? 6. Would you do almost anything for them, even give up your happiness for them to be happy? If you can answer these questions with positive answers, I think you could be in love. But another piece to it is if you couldn't answer all of those questions without justifying your answers. Ask yourself these questions to figure out if you're just infatuated. If you got mostly A's, you are not infatuated with them. You have a very healthy relationship.
If you got mostly B's, You are in fact infatuated. Let me clarify that infatuation isn't bad, it's normal in the beginning of getting to know someone. BUT, Infatuation and love are two completely different things in itself. Love is real and a commitment. That's why most people don't go running around saying I love you to every person they meet. Lots of people dislike love because of the effects it has on you afterwards. Many people have been through heartbreak and many are not willing to try it again but there are those few who want what they can see in the future and do what ever it takes to accomplish that. It's the same in love as in life. So let me leave you with this after thought. Love can be very challenging and testing at times but without it, the world would be bland and boring. If you truly believe in your heart there is a chance for love, by all means go for it and put all your effort into it. But if you try and try again and this person doesn't reciprocate these feelings or tries to but it doesn't work, let them go so that you can love someone else as much as they could love you. There are reasons why you might not be able to be with them now. Everything happens for a reason. sincerely, gwen siviengxay here i am.
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6/19/2020 04:16:41 am
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